Interview With Kate Henshaw: ‘My Husband Never Beat Me’

how have you been able to cope with the separation?
I don’t know what to say. The Bible says, “He makes all things beautiful in His own time.” When you are down at the rock bottom, that is when God will lift you up. People have died in their marriages, some have lost one part or the other, some are still married, they have spent 30, 40 years in their marriage. You have to make the best out of your situation and move up. I have so much I want to do, I don’t have to wallow in self pity. That is just an aspect of me. Marriage does not define anybody. Our daughter is the most important thing. We have to make sure she is happy, she gets the best.Click to continue

Through it all, stories are flying all round. What was your reaction then, what lesson did you learn from it?
I was driving through traffic one day, a vendor who knew me brought a magazine, saying, “Na you be this, you have to buy it”. I just laughed. They said I was dating Tonye Cole. Tonye is like a brother to me, his wife was my school mother. I called the two of them and we laughed over it. It hurts. Yes, it does. It is now a year but it seemed like yesterday. I am here, smiling with you, I am just grateful for life.



Any regret?
No regret at all. My daughter came out of the union, she is the most beautiful thing ever.

Any possibility of reconciliation?
No reconciliation. Please, my daughter is the most important person, she is still part of us. we still talk about her, we are going to look after her. We talk about her welfare. The marriage just didn’t work out.

Any consideration for second marriage or new relationship?
(Laughs) I am not looking for anybody. If it comes, it comes. I cannot say I will never love any man again. I wouldn’t say that. I can’t say I won’t.

What led to the break – up?
I can’t say that.

At over 40, you are graceful. Can you tell us your beauty regime?
I work out regularly, maintenance culture is high. I love to rest, I love to travel, I eat right, I love massage. I then leave others to God. I was even dancing in DJ Zeez’s video, that was a traditional dance.

About your failed marriage, did he ever beat you?
No. He never did. I can’t just say why it failed. Marriage does not define anybody. Once it doesn’t work, we move on, although it hurts.

But I am sure so many people would have come along to date you now that you are single?
I am not looking in that direction but if an ideal man comes, it comes. I can’t say I would never love again. …